Winning with Support (Tammy Bolt Werthem)

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The glory of friendship is not the outstretched hand, nor the kindly smile nor the joy of companionship; it is the spiritual inspiration that comes to one when he discovers that someone else believes in him and is willing to trust him.
Ralph Waldo Emerson

When I got sober, I learned the value of unconditional love and support.  The men and women who supported me in my recovery helped me build a foundation for lasting sobriety.

I am so grateful for the people in my life that stepped in and loved me unconditionally until I could love myself.  One of these women was Terri. I met Terri at a Celebrate Recovery meeting and was immediately drawn to her vivacious personailty.  She was bubbling with joy and radiated a beauty that comes from a life surrendered to God.  Terri became my sponsor in Alcoholics Anonymous.

She loved me and offered me the gift of friendship.  Terri has moved away and though I do not see her face to face, the impact of her supportive friendship shapes me daily.  Terri modeled to me how to both GIVE and RECEIVE support.  Today, I share the many blessings of our relationship with other women that I coach and mentor.

I learned the value of living in community and surrounding myself with winners.

I am blessed to have an amazing support system and I get to be a support to some pretty fabulous people.

I am convinced that I am where I am today because I learned to GIVE and RECEIVE support.

Here are some examples of “Beliefs” that could be limiting you from experiencing Support:

  • I’ll scratch your back, but don’t even think about scratching mine.
  • I don’t want to bother anyone.
  • I would rather help you achieve your goals and dreams, than think about myself.
  • I can do it myself.
  • People will fail me.  It is not safe to rely on others.
  • Choosing me is not honoring to God.

Here are some “Beliefs” that could benefit you in experiencing Support:

  • I am worthy of living in community with people who support one another.
  • Jesus modeled ministry with a tribe of people and he teaches us to do the same.
  • Allowing others to support me makes me more effective and powerful.
  • When I give and receive support, I experience greater intimacy in relationships.
  • Doing life with a supportive team makes life fun and interesting.
  • Choosing the right support helps me to grow in areas where I may not be naturally gifted.

What would you add to the lists above?  Will you share how you learned to give and receive support?  WE look forward to your comments!

I would love to be on your support team.  You can email me anytime at tammy@everydaylifeline.com

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