Got Secrets? (my thoughts on Inseperable) by Tammy Bolt Werthem

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Got Secrets? Mine almost killed me!

If you have been following our blog for any time, you know this about us: We are real.  We are honest and in our honesty, we expose ourselves.  The recent posts, by my sister, Jenny entitled “Inseparable” have been unveiling some of my darkest secrets.  (Scroll down to read these, or view them in the Archives)

In recovery circles, there is a phrase tossed around: You are as sick as your secrets.

At one point in my life, I was super sick, as a result of keeping many secrets.  Combined with hopelessness and shame, I was a walking time bomb of destruction.

You may have been wondering how I feel about being so exposed. I am more than okay with it, for I am certain that people will be helped, as a result of our story being told.  Jenny has received not just my permission to share “our story” but my blessing.

There is no better person to tell it.  She is a gifted writer and storyteller, she is my lifelong friend, and she is my identical twin. She lived it and her perspective is invaluable.  As I read the excerpts, my heart is moved and reminded of the pain and heartache, and so extremely grateful for the redemption story, that is our life today.

I had some dirty little secrets.  They had me.  They kept me stuck, living in my addiction and limited me in so many ways.

Today, I have hope that is eternal.  I have a redemption story that will blow your mind.  Keep reading for more of “our story”.

Jeff Goins is one of my online writing mentors:  He too is real and I appreciate this about him.

In his post, entitled “Why you should tell the ugly parts of your story”, he says:

“If you write a blog or a memoir or simply find yourself telling a story to a friend over coffee today, try doing this for a change:

Tell a nasty part of yourself you’d otherwise conceal. Tell something that humiliates and humbles you, and see how your audience reacts……….At times, you will hold the keys to another’s prison.

Just like when you write from the heart, your pain will become someone else’s healing balm….there is a world full of desperate, broken people, longing to hear the honest words of another ragamuffin.”

You can read his full post here: http://goinswriter.com/write-ugly/

I challenge you to be bold in sharing your story. You never know who you could be helping.  Tell something despicable and see who relates.  Tell something shameful or embarrassing and you may be surprised by the loving people who will surround you and tell you a simple but transformational message:

 You are not alone and this is not the end of your story.

I am honored to be part of the team at Everyday Lifeline.  We are world changers.  You can learn more about our team here: http://everydaylifeline.com/

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  • http://www.facebook.com/sainvil1984 Savoy Sainvil

    i understand that whole heartedly. Secrets can kill someone and/or build someone up. Opening up about your secrets will make u feel like a weight lifted off your chest. You, women are doing a fine job with this website and this website is going to go far. You are beautiful people inside and out.

    • http://iwokeupyesterday.com iwokeupyesterday

      Savoy, Thanks for your encouraging words. We value your support and friendship. Tammy

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1323141469 Jennifer Snyder Price

    Tammy, I wondered how you feel about these excerpts and if you were receiving the response you anticipated. I’m so relieved to know you feel blessed and maybe even encouraged by having the rough road you travelled so exposed. I remember the cries of Jenny’s heart and the prayers we prayed for you and I’m blessed by the woman of God you’ve become. You are the daughter of the King, blessed and highly favored ;)

    • http://iwokeupyesterday.com iwokeupyesterday

      i treasure you and your prayers, then and NOW!!
      thanks Jennifer! Tammy

    • Anonymous

      Jennifer, I remember the circle of Tuesday morning prayer groups, and I can see your face right there, lifting up my sister. Thank you for being a part of that process and of recognizing the miracles as you do! Jenny

  • http://hoadley sheila

    Thank you for your willing, vulnerable heart. You guys are a light shining JESUS all the way! Your story brings so much hope and I pray healing to many!! You are loved!

  • Anonymous

    Tammy!! Braveo and keep doing what you are doing I am proud of you. Coach

    • http://iwokeupyesterday.com iwokeupyesterday

      thanks Coach, your encouragement is so very much appreciated, as always!!!

  • Marie

    In mediation we use the word “transparency” to describe how we explain process and format. I have carried this over into my personal life and have found it opened doors and gave people the opportunity to support me.

    Beautiful posts from both of you.

    • http://iwokeupyesterday.com iwokeupyesterday

      Marie,
      Transparency is essential for any person to move forward and when we seek it in our lives, it has a domino effect!
      Tammy

  • Susan

    What happens when your secret is someone else’s secret too and they don’t want it revealed? I always wonder … Because my secret affects my whole family.

    • http://iwokeupyesterday.com iwokeupyesterday

      that is a tough one. most of our family is okay with us sharing these family secrets. and for those that aren’t we try to be sensitive. if it is something that would bring shame upon your family, then i would elect to not share.
      but, I do encourage you to share your secret with someone privately…this public domain is not for everyone:)
      Tammy

  • Helena

    Tammy, thanks for being OK with your story being told. Jenny, thanks for writing it. You attach emotion to addiction from another perspective….the loved ones around you watching you destroy yourself. I am so thankful you both can share a story with a redemptive ending. There is always hope.

    • http://iwokeupyesterday.com iwokeupyesterday

      Hope for the hopeless and healing for the broken!! So blessed and grateful. P.S. I miss you so, let’s hang out real soon, Tam

    • http://iwokeupyesterday.com iwokeupyesterday

      always.
      always.
      always.
      HOPE. His supply is endless. thank you Helena for YOUR example of this evidence.

  • http://gravatar.com/juliness juliness

    You are both so vulnerable. So in spirit of your story, here is mine. Yesterday, my five year old and I got into a battle of the wills. I yelled, threatened, tried to spank him but his sister held my arm, picked him up in his pjs and put him in the car with his clothes, turned around, and told him to go to his room. I sat feeling sorry for my self, wondering how things got so bad? I sat down in his room. He was a crying mess. I was crying inside. We just talked about why he was angry and upset. I didn’t make it about me, respect, or being right. I just listened. We hugged, appolgized, and got dressed for school. Looking a mess with my button that says “I accept my greatness”, I walk into the front office at school. What do I say about his being tardy? I wrote: “no excuses, just late”. Head high, I accepted that greatnesses is letting go of the shame, blame, guilt, and embarassment and embrassing forgiveness, letting the moment not mean something ugly about me or my son. One moment is not who I am. In one moment, I can chose to be something different.

    • http://iwokeupyesterday.com iwokeupyesterday

      thank you for your powerful share juliness. it is a treasure to hear from you.

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